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Should we move in together?

I was chatting this past weekend with a couple of lovely lady-feminists who were thinking about moving in with their boyfriends.  Tough decision.  Does love conquer all?  Not necessarily.

I’ve decided to create a list of questions everyone should ask themselves before their lease is broken.

1.  Do you believe in the institution of marriage?

This is not an easy question to answer.  You may need to seek therapy, walk the Appalachian Trail or go on a vision quest.  Whatever you do, think it through and decide if it’s right for you.

a) Yes!  I’m totally into marriage.  It’s a beautiful expression of love and family.  If we move in together, we are one step away from marriage.

b) No.  It’s a prison designed to disenfranchise me.

c) I don’t know.  My parents are married and they seem happy?

d) Not applicable because it’s illegal.

2.  Do you want children?

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby is a baby carriage.  Or so we’ve been indoctrinated.

a) Yes.  I want to hold a tiny baby in my arms and love it forever and ever.

b) Um.  No thank you.

c) Maybe?  Although, I really do enjoy the low-maintenance of cats.

d) Not applicable

3.  Are you comfortable with letting it all hang out?

Bleaching mustaches, tweezing rogue breast hairs, chick pea fueled gas explosions.  What are your boundaries?  Where do you draw the line?

a) When the bathroom door is closed, it’s CLOSED!

b) Hey, we’re all animals.  I have nothing to hide.

c) Basic maintenance is acceptable however stuff that embarrassed me at 13 is out of the question.

d) Not applicable because I’m the definition of perfection.

4.  What amount of personal time do you require before you get an, “I’m being suffocated!” anxiety attack?

a) I’m so in love.  It’s as if my partner and I are one complete molecule of togetherness.

b) 2-3 nights a week to work on projects, crack out on facebook and socialize with friends.

c) I’m high most of the time so it doesn’t really matter.

d) Not applicable because I’m a tree.

One bed. Are you ready?

5.  Have you discussed all of these questions with your partner?

a) Yes…but not really.

b) Yes, yes and YES!

c) No way man.  It’ll kill the mood.

d) Not applicable because I only communicate via twitter.

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  2. Paula says:

    All very good questions, but these are just a start. I like the relationship test that Quinn Cummings suggests on her blog, the QC Report. She suggests you’re not ready to commit unless you have survived a cross country trip in a small car without air conditioning.

    • cathleen says:

      Yes! I think everything will be covered on a cross-country drive. I’ve never done one. Maybe it’s time…

    • Cali says:

      Haha, my boyfriend and I did one of these a couple of months ago. Not a fun road trip either, like a utilitarian 13-hours-straight-in-the-car-every-day road trip. My family was amazed we were still speaking to each other afterwards.

      Of course, we did have air conditioning… so maybe it doesn’t count. ;-)