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Married Woman Seeks Fetish, Lacks Focus

Married Woman Seeks Fetish, Lacks Focus

This evening, I asked Peter, “Should we have a fetish?” He replied, “Well, we have a lot of stuffed animals.  Would we be considered Plushies?” “But we don’t have sexytimes with our stuffed animals, ” I said. “I think we’re supposed to dress up like our stuffed animals and then have sexytimes,” he replied. A long, quiet pause...

Settled Downers

Settled Downers

Take your pick: Pre-written narrative #1 Get married, buy house, have children, get heart disease, die *OR* Pre-written narrative #2 Get married, buy house, have children, get divorced, get breast implants, get heart disease, die No wonder we call it ‘settling down.’ What if there is a third option? Pre-written narrative #3 Get married and then whatever happens,...

Check out this little piece of fire

Check out this little piece of fire

5 year old girl sets the ground rules for her future husband. (Youtube)

Home for the holidays – what I lea...

Home for the holidays – what I learned this year…

Spending nearly two weeks with two different families for two holidays (Christmas and New Year’s) is like getting lost in the engine room of a submarine – it’s hot, complicated and there is no way to escape. But then, after you have given up hope, the sun appears from above the surface and fresh oxygen rushes back into your lungs. As a general rule, I deconstruct my...

Single women are not my problem

Single women are not my problem

Recently, a woman I know told me about her most recent manicure experience.  While she was getting her nails done, the esthetician asked her is she had children. The woman replied, “no.” “Are you married?” “No.” “Do you have a boyfriend?” “No.” “Why no boyfriend?” “I’m new to the...

Love & War

Love & War

I’m a quiet fighter.  I begin with radio silence and then launch into a brutal stream of, I statements... “When you said blank, it made me feel blank.” Here we go… let the tense discussion begin! Peter and I “discuss fight.”  We don’t raise our voices and we talk it out until we resurface from the depths of marital woe.  Our fights have never...

La, la living with your partner before w...

La, la living with your partner before wedlock…

The move-in conversation between Peter and I went something like this: Peter:  Maybe we should think about getting a place together. Cathleen:  (Distantly) Okay… Peter:  (Concern enters his voice) What?  Do you not want to? Cathleen: (Defensively) No, I want to...but… Peter: But... what? Cathleen:  If we move in together… it has to end in marriage.  I am too old...

Married people suck!

Married people suck!

The twenty year old me would be horrified to discover the thirty-something-old me writing a blog about marriage.  First of all, because the word blog was not yet invented and secondly, I thought marriage was tragically un-hip back then.  It’s not like I was morally against marriage.  I just didn’t care about it.  It was a stodgy, old thing for boring, old people.  It...

I’ll grab the cheesecake, you bring the ...

I’ll grab the cheesecake, you bring the conversation…

I was able to catch up with a good friend this past weekend.  I was crashing on her futon while in town rehearsing a play.  Friends for nearly a decade, we once took a now infamous trip to Ireland together with our boyfriends, my brother and his girlfriend.  We were lured to the motherland by cheap tickets on Aer Lingus and naïve optimism that six people in crumbling relationships...

Getting down to brass tacks

Getting down to brass tacks

When I was a little girl, I never dreamed of getting married.  I just knew I would.  It was never an obsession but rather a fact of life like college debt and cavities.  My parents are still married and happily it seems.  They met at church, and when I say church I mean in Taiwan as a nun and priest.  Scandals aside, it is a very romantic story.  One that would compel me on a...