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Irene: The Roundup

Irene: The Roundup

We prepared late last night before the brunt of the storm hit. Peter struggles with the Mayor’s request that we fill our bathtub with water. Turns out our bathtub isn’t equipped for emergency situations. A wee flavor of the extent of the storm. Battling gusts of…not sure? But, it did feel kinda...

Holy F*** Our First Hurricane!

Holy F*** Our First Hurricane!

Having never been through a hurricane, it’s hard to know what to do. Other than panic, of course. According to the emergency map issued by NYC, we live in ZONE B. I’m not sure what that means – will the storm surge flood our first floor apartment? No way, that would be crazy! I’m mean, it’s not like we live in ZONE A. Those suckers are screwed. Our...

How My Marriage Deals With Global Econom...

How My Marriage Deals With Global Economic Disaster

Diary of a Furious Wife

Diary of a Furious Wife

This afternoon, I spoke to my friend Jennie* who called me sobbing because her husband read (not one, not two, but ALL) the journals she’s kept since their relationship began. He confronted/blindsided her angrily about some things she had written. He was very hurt by her critique of him and his family, and jealous about an unrequited crush she had on a co-worker. I was horrified by...

The secret to a good marriage…

The secret to a good marriage…

…is not keeping secrets. And I don’t mean from each other. I tell Jim almost everything, but there are limits. I doubt it’ll make my marriage stronger if I tell him about the dude at the grocery store who always flirts with me. I don’t regale him with sexual experiences I had with other men before I met him, or which ex-boyfriend keeps trying to friend me on Facebook. (Come...

My “I Told You So” Evolution

My “I Told You So” Evolution

When Jim and I first married I had a pretty tough time keeping myself from pointing out when I was right and Jim was wrong. I wasn’t a gloater, and didn’t hold things over his head, but I felt it was important that I be recognized for being correct. I hungered for that validation. This was a lack of maturity on my part. I hadn’t been in many long term relationships and didn’t...

Listen to the Wives Talk It Out with Sta...

Listen to the Wives Talk It Out with Stacey Stern

This past Tuesday, Robyn and I had the pleasure of being on the Stacey Stern Show. We spent the hour chatting with Stacey about all things married and otherwise. Listen Here This wasn’t our first time on the program.  Stacey graciously invited back on her show after our original interview on February 22, 2011.  You can catch Robyn talking about Living Oprah and Cathleen chiming...

Married Woman Seeks Fetish, Lacks Focus

Married Woman Seeks Fetish, Lacks Focus

This evening, I asked Peter, “Should we have a fetish?” He replied, “Well, we have a lot of stuffed animals.  Would we be considered Plushies?” “But we don’t have sexytimes with our stuffed animals, ” I said. “I think we’re supposed to dress up like our stuffed animals and then have sexytimes,” he replied. A long, quiet pause...

Is it EVER ok…?

Is it EVER ok…?

I’ve been wondering if it’s ever acceptable to correct your spouse in public and I’ve been collecting public opinion on the topic. When I was newly married, I always put up a united front, no matter how much I disagreed with something Jim said — or felt his facts were off. But as the years roll by, I have a harder time putting up a facade. Usually I shut my trap — I...

The Wives get feedback

The Wives get feedback

My grandmother always used to say, “Careful…You might get what you wish for.” Even though she ended a sentence with a preposition, Grandma was right. Cathleen and I have wondered if, while balancing our busy lives, we’ve ever given our marriages the short end of the stick. Here’s a video showing what happens when we get the feedback we’ve always...

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