Where’s the handbook?
Where’s the handbook?
I’ve got detailed directions for how to best enjoy tampons, frozen edamame and cat litter but I got nothing for being married. What gives? The Washington Post reports that a woman named Diane Sollee would like to remedy that discrepancy. (The Washington Post, Ellen McCarthy June 27, 2010)...Getting my groove back
Getting my groove back
It’s not like I like being a homebody… So, when I was a young woman, I LOVED to go out. Rock shows, clubs, parties, bars- I kept a busy social calendar. The cool taste of excitement mixed with cigarettes, wine and appetizers fueled me on my nightly pursuits. I would make friends and talk shop, shit and gossip. Throw in a couple of make-out sessions and I was good to...Teach me!
Teach me!
Peter and I headed down to the DC area this past weekend to help my sister and her husband get ready for their soon to be born baby boy. We weeded, scrubbed, vacuumed, polished, and folded. My sister looks big and beautiful and the house is crisp and clean. I would love to get some words of wisdom from all of you out there who are aunts and uncles. In your opinion, what makes you...Marriage, Lost and Life
Marriage, Lost and Life
What is the point of getting married? Lost This past weekend, my cousin got married. Weddings on my mother’s side of the family adhere to a strict mythology that has been decades in the making. I know without a shadow of doubt that during the ceremony I will see my aunt Cindy sobbing uncontrollably. My father, armed with his glitzy camera, will have positioned himself at the...A little heartbreak
A little heartbreak
I recently had a brutally honest conversation with a single girlfriend of mine I hadn’t seen in years. We ran into each other on the street in my ‘hood, and the light conversation turned from pleasant small talk to a really deep discussion very quickly. It always hurt my feelings how she allowed our relationship to fade away even though I had tried to stay in touch. I pointed...Married people suck!
Married people suck!
The twenty year old me would be horrified to discover the thirty-something-old me writing a blog about marriage. First of all, because the word blog was not yet invented and secondly, I thought marriage was tragically un-hip back then. It’s not like I was morally against marriage. I just didn’t care about it. It was a stodgy, old thing for boring, old people. It...Do you judge?
Do you judge?
I’m really touched by the emails and calls I’ve gotten as a result of the marriage counseling post. Thanks y’all. I love reading your experiences and feelings on utilizing therapy as part of a healthy relationship. More on this topic later in the year… So, your responses have me curious about a couple things — give me a hand and check out the two polls...Why is there still a stigma against marr...
Why is there still a stigma against marriage counseling?
If I can’t figure out my own taxes, I call an accountant. If my water heater is broken, I call the plumber. If I have a sore throat, I see the doctor. Why is seeing an expert in these other areas totally acceptable, and yet it’s taboo to consult (or admit to visiting) a counselor to fix a malfunctioning marriage? I’m going to be bold here and admit to you that Jim and I have seen...My village…
My village…
I am currently living out of a suitcase as I travel between New York and Boston for a show I am performing in. I have been leaning heavily on friends and family to house me while I am away from Peter and my home base. I just wanted to write a little something to everyone who is keeping me safe and sound right now… Center stage, spot light. Begin dramatic monologue. When my...Judge not…or should we?
Judge not…or should we?
Show of hands: do you judge other peoples marriages? I do. It’s not like I want to… Listen, if you put an opened bag of potato chips in front of me, I’m going to eat them. And I’m going to enjoy them because they are delicious. Sometimes, judging is good. When I was in an unhappy relationship prior to my marriage, I actively judged couples around me. I...The Wives are...
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