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Shout Out!

Shout Out!

And now for a video dedication… My life has been completely upended by a stomach virus over the past three days.  My husband and I live in a tiny apartment with very little privacy.  Over the last few days, he has seen and heard terrible things.  Sounds that would make a child cry and a cat run out into traffic.  Despite the thick haze of gas, he has been by my side, ready and...

Is there more sand in my hour glass?

Is there more sand in my hour glass?

Jim is on a business trip and boy oh boy, do I have a lot of time on my hands. Even though the day-to-day chores that Jim and I usually share have fallen onto my shoulders (how do two such little cats poop so much?!), I definitely have a lot more ‘me’ time. I miss the guy like crazy, but a lot of my free time comes from the fact I’m not picking up after him, taking...

Love & War

Love & War

I’m a quiet fighter.  I begin with radio silence and then launch into a brutal stream of, I statements... “When you said blank, it made me feel blank.” Here we go… let the tense discussion begin! Peter and I “discuss fight.”  We don’t raise our voices and we talk it out until we resurface from the depths of marital woe.  Our fights have never...

A little heartbreak

A little heartbreak

I recently had a brutally honest conversation with a single girlfriend of mine I hadn’t seen in years. We ran into each other on the street in my ‘hood, and the light conversation turned from pleasant small talk to a really deep discussion very quickly. It always hurt my feelings how she allowed our relationship to fade away even though I had tried to stay in touch. I pointed...

So tired…so freakin’ tired…

So tired…so freakin’ tired…

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From philosophytalk.org: What is a wife?...

From philosophytalk.org: What is a wife?

A scholarly, academic look at the subject of wifeliness. A fabulous interview on philosphytalk.org. From their website: “The concept of a wife has been embedded in cultures, religious practices, social customs and economic patterns of wildly different sorts. Is there a core concept of what it is to be a wife? Is it a good concept, or one that deserves to be thrown on the trash...

La, la living with your partner before w...

La, la living with your partner before wedlock…

The move-in conversation between Peter and I went something like this: Peter:  Maybe we should think about getting a place together. Cathleen:  (Distantly) Okay… Peter:  (Concern enters his voice) What?  Do you not want to? Cathleen: (Defensively) No, I want to...but… Peter: But... what? Cathleen:  If we move in together… it has to end in marriage.  I am too old...

Clearly my parents didn’t get the memo...

Clearly my parents didn’t get the memo

A British study reports that Married couples talk less with age. I better talk Jim’s ear off tonight.

Married people suck!

Married people suck!

The twenty year old me would be horrified to discover the thirty-something-old me writing a blog about marriage.  First of all, because the word blog was not yet invented and secondly, I thought marriage was tragically un-hip back then.  It’s not like I was morally against marriage.  I just didn’t care about it.  It was a stodgy, old thing for boring, old people.  It...

Where are all these marriage tax breaks ...

Where are all these marriage tax breaks I keep hearing about?

I am working on our taxes. It’s my job in our relationship to deal with this. I’m not sure how or why it evolved this way, but it did, and it’s ok since Jim deals with tons of our other financial stuff. It’s pretty last minute for me to be so close to the April 15th deadline without having filed my paperwork. I’m a little sick over it. Not just the tardiness, but the glowing,...

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